According to the dictionary, beloved means: "very much loved; a person who is dearly loved; and dear to the heart." When someone calls you beloved, that means you are the object of their affection. Someone is giving you love--sending you love, pouring out love on you, BUT the question is: will you receive it?
Same goes with love. There are people in our lives who show and give us love--family, friends, significant others, and sometimes even strangers… These people care about us and want the best for us. They give us the gift of love, but sometimes we don't receive it.
Why? Why is it so hard to be loved?
It's like osmosis. Remember, high school science class and the picture of the molecules and the semipermeable membrane? The membrane has holes in it where some things can pass through, but others can't. The membrane acts as a barrier between the two sides. It filters what comes in and what stays out.
We too have created our own "semipermeable membranes" based usually on our past experiences--hurts and disappointments, or what we think might happen in the future. We try and carefully select what we let in and what stays out. We say we are "guarding" ourselves or "protecting" ourselves from getting hurt--that's how we often justify our walls.
However, many times in an effort to keep the "bad" molecules out--the jabs and darts thrown at us, we keep the good out as well. We don't receive the good gifts offered to us like love, kindness and compassion. We act strong and stoic thinking we are doing ourselves a favor when in reality we are cutting off our lifeline. We are dismissing the very energy that will give us life. We are throwing out the bad along with the good.
However, if you're anything like me, I know I've overcompensated in areas and built strong walls to protect myself. I have built fortresses in different areas of my life. Now the bad things won't get in, but the good won't either. I've cut myself off.
So what do I do? I stop. I sit. I pray. I ask God to show me where I've built these self-protecting walls in my life. I become aware and then I start to tear them down. I want a fence around my "house," not unscalable, castle-like walls. I want to be able to receive the good things in life. I want to receive the gift of love when it's offered to me. And in order to do this, I must exchange my strong, stoic heart for a vulnerable, authentic and soft one. Some might say this is weakness, but in actuality, being vulnerable is a sign of strength.
So my friend, have you built walls in your life that need to come down? Is it hard for you to receive love when it's offered to you? Join me in tearing these walls down so we can receive the gift of love.
Dear friend, allow yourself to BE LOVED.