So I withdrew my application last night. It was hard to do, but also relieving. Plus I had to eat some humble pie to do it. Part of me wanted to keep going through the process, get the job and then decide to turn it down. Why would I even want to do that? Why would I want to continue down a path if I already knew it wasn't the right one for me?
Great question! But many of us do just that all the time! We keep going down a path because that's all we know. We are afraid to bow out. We are afraid to yell, STOP! Get me off this train! It takes guts and courage to gracefully bow out of a situation or opportunity (especially when it looks so good!). But that's what I did.
Well I thought of a few reasons--you might be able to add some of your own too:
- I like to finish what I start (even if it kills my soul and spirit in the process)
- I like to have the validation that I was good enough for the job (aka PRIDE!!!!)
- It's easier to continue down a path than to switch halfway through (go with what you know)
- I didn't want to admit to myself that this opportunity wasn't for me despite the time and energy I had already invested in the interview/selection process
Can you relate to any of those? Perhaps with tyrant of a boss, you ask yourself: why did I stay in that toxic environment for so long?
Perhaps with a relationship, you say to yourself: I knew after a year I wasn't going to marry her. So why the hell did I stay in the relationship another two years and wait for it to disintegrate before my eyes?
Maybe it's a career choice, you scratch your head wondering: why did I major in pre-med when I knew I wanted to be an English teacher? I just did it to please [you fill in the blank] and now 10 years later, I have an M.D. and I hate my job.
And we could go on and on. The point is: it's hard to STOP and cut our losses NOW. We think things will get better. We think we will end up happy. We think, we think and we think some more. You know, sometimes I think we need to stop thinking and we need to listen to our hearts more.
Turn down the volume on our minds and turn up the volume on our hearts.
Is there an area in your life you need to cut your losses? Don't wait. Do it now. Do it now. Do it now! Cut your losses now. Don't prolong it. Don't drag it out. Stop spending your energy on something (or someone) you know isn't right for you. Do the hard thing and cut your losses while you still can.