If you're anything like me, you probably think back to past February 14ths--WHERE you were; WHO you were with; WHAT you got...the highs, the lows and everything in-between. Maybe this year is the best V-Day yet for you or maybe it's the worst one you've ever had (recent breakup? divorce? separation? or even the death of a loved one?…). Regardless of how you feel, know you are not alone. There are millions of others out there like you blissfully in love or hopelessly depressed or somewhere in between. You're not alone irregardless of where you fall on the spectrum.
When you think about it, Valentines Day is really a strange holiday: it's a day set aside to express your love towards another person (or group of people, aka a mom expressing love towards her children). It means different things for a lot of people, but one thing is for sure: it's a widely commercialized holiday! According to one article, on average people spend $130 on V-Day and some people spend wayyyyy more than that.
As we all know, since 1913 thousands of other retailers have hopped on the band wagon and looked for ways to commercialize this day for all it's worth. The sad thing is, most people feel guilt tripped into celebrating the day. Since when do you want your lover to feel guilt tripped into buying you a gift? Taking you out for a nice dinner? Or planning a special weekend getaway?
I don't know about you, but I do NOT want someone guilt tripped into showing their love and affection for me. I want the extra TLC to be genuine or I'd rather have none of it. Away with this guilt trip stuff!!!
Some people call V-Day a "compulsory holiday." One article states: "Shoppers may be spending $13 billion annually on heart-shaped boxes and flowers, but they're doing so out of duty, not devotion." Does that sound like true love to you?
So on a day that is supposed to celebrate LOVE, we do all, BUT that. We have the retailers making big bucks--guilt tripping people into dropping wads of cash for their lover. We have those in relationships buying gifts and celebrating the day out of obligation versus genuine love and affection. And then we have the singles--the lonely hearts out there spending the night at home, eating ice cream out of a tub and subscribing to yet another internet dating site. (Stats show some online dating sites experience 45% more traffic on V-Day!)
And yet in all this hubbub and chaos, I know a few (very few) couples that don't just celebrate Valentines Day on February 14th. Rather they celebrate it every day with joy and pleasure. They love trying to out-do their partner in love. They love showering their partner with gifts and affection. It is done solely out of pure love with no hint of duty or obligation or guilt in it.
And I also know a few confident, strong single souls out there content with where they are at. They know that there is a season for everything. They aren't lamenting or having a pity party over their current set of circumstances. They aren't peering over at their neighbor's lawn thinking the grass is greener on the other side. They are at peace with themselves. They aren't desperate. They live with contentment and gratitude for all they have and they look forward to the future with optimism and hope.
So wherever you find yourself in your love journey, take heart, dear friend. Know there is a time and season for everything. Don't fall in love out of duty or loneliness. Rather be confident in WHO you are. Celebrate LOVE every day, not just on February 14th. And guess what? Living life with gratitude and thankfulness attracts love to you. I'm serious, try it! Start by living with more contentment, thankfulness and gratitude and see what happens. I dare you!