She's an executive at the company. She's always 5 minutes early at the latest. She's polished. Well-mannered. Has zero bags under her eyes because she gets a quality 8 hrs of sleep a night. She always makes time to attend her children's school functions and go out for a coffee date with a friend.
She plans the family's vacations (plural, vacation-s). She cooks at least 5 sit down dinners a week. And she makes time to be involved in at least 3 civic organizations--that's the least she can do for her community, she tells you. Did I mention, she competes (and wins, of course) in the local tennis circuit?
Need I say more? Do you know this woman? Her name is Superwoman. And to many of us, she lives next door. Or so we think. That's the problem with appearances vs reality. We tend to compare our inner selves to others' outward shells. On the outside it LOOKS as if our next door neighbor fits the profile above to a T.
But really, does she?
Really? NO! Get real! That woman doesn't exist except in our minds. It's an image we've created, NOT a real person. Society has created Superwoman. In reality, it would take about 6 women to fit the above description! No one person can do it all, all the time.
Read an excerpt from Glamour entitled "Why the Woman Who 'Has It All' Doesn't Really Exist" by Barnard College president Debora L. Spar.
I'm pretty sure I remember the moment I knew I was having it all. On a December day several years ago, I was in the women's bathroom at New York's LaGuardia Airport. I had an hour between flights, so I rushed for the stalls. Cramming my bags against the door and pulling off my blouse, I perched on the seat, took out my little Medela pump, and began feverishly expressing my breast milk. After several minutes of whirring and fumbling, I pulled myself together and stuffed my five- weeks-postpartum belly back into my business suit.
And that's when I realized—wryly, ironically, totally deprived of sleep—that I was experiencing the superwoman dream.
Bottom-line: WE CAN'T DO IT ALL! We have to let go of the expectations we've put on ourselves. We need to lighten our loads and get out from under the weight of "do it all, be it all." We will die under the stress and anxiety of trying to be the Superwoman society wants us to be.
Instead: be you, be real, and be aLIVE. And resist the temptation of comparing your inside's to someone else's outsides. BE YOU! The YOU God created you to be! Because that's the BEST YOU!
Read the entire article here from Glamour.